Welcome to the September Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting Through Play
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how challenging discipline situations can be met with play. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
The toddler years…they can be rather, er, challenging shall we say? Toddlers have a strong, opinionated, and independent mind. They want what they want when they want it. Toddlers are not keen on being disrupted from whatever has captivated their attention. They typically do not jump on board with whatever plans mom has when they are engaged in their little world of awe and wonder. I mean, cleaning up, eating, diaper changes, brushing teeth, running errands, and doing what mom requests are not high priorities in the toddler years.
So how can moms and dads ease the pain of prying a toddler away from something he or she is engaged in and enjoying?
Playful parenting via talking pictorially!
Children of all ages should be allowed to lose themselves in play, their imagination, and the wonder filled world that unfolds around them. Adult disruption of this, especially an overly verbal adult, takes children quickly outside of the hallmark of childhood – to be unconsciously at peace and in the moment. Talking in pictures is a gentle way of keeping a child in the moment while transitioning them to the activity that you, the parent, needs them to participate in. It is also a fun, playful way for a parent to connect with their child during routine activities that can become a battle.
Below are 40 examples of talking pictorially to help ease the pain of herding your toddler. I would love to hear your suggestions as well, so please comment with ways in which you might already be using pictorial language to move your toddler through the day.
Waking Up/Getting Out of Bed
1. “Time to rise like the sun.”
2. “My little bear needs to come out of his cave.”
3. “Time for my caterpillar to come out of her cocoon.”
4. “My little lobster may claw his way out of bed now.”
5. “My little bear may put on his fur coat now” (when putting on a sweater or coat).
6. “Slither into your skin like a snake” (when putting on pants).
7. “Looks like some pirates left behind a special pair of shoes. Let’s put then on and see if they lead us to buried treasure.”
8. “Those toes are cold as ice. Let’s slip them into some socks so they don’t melt!”
9. “My construction worker needs to put his hardhat on before going outside!” (when putting on a hat.)
10. “It is time for this caterpillar to get cozy in her cocoon” (when putting on a shirt).
11. “Time to practice our rain dance” (when it is shower time).
12. “Let’s grab our bubble catchers (cups or ladles) and see how many bubbles we can catch tonight” (when it is time for a bath in the tub).
13. You can pretend like your child is a fish and you are a fisherman/woman trying to “catch” them. (Be sure to have a pretend fishing pole ready!) When you “catch” your toddler, tell her that you have to throw her back into the pond so she can swim with her fishy friends. (This would be the time to put her in the bath).
14. Take a small green towel and put it in the water then say “time for my little froggy to sit on her lilly pad.”
15. “Open wide like a crocodile.”
16. “Time to go mining for gold.”
17. “Time to sweep the cobwebs out.”
18. “It’s time for my little mouse to nibble on some breakfast/lunch/dinner/snack.”
19. “It’s time for my turkey to gobble his food.”
20. “Superheroes need food so that they may save the world. Let’s have a bit to eat!”
21. “I see that my airplane/racecar/motorcycle/boat needs more fuel. Let’s pull into the fueling station and fill your tank!”
22. “My little flower needs water. Let’s get the watering can and give you a drink!”
23. “My darling plant is wilting. Time to water you!”
Picking Up Toys/Cleaning Up
24. “Time to turn into the wind and blow all of the toys to their homes.”
25. “Time to put the toys to bed and tuck them in.”
26. “Where is my moving truck? Let’s load you up with all the toys and drive them to their homes.”
27. You and your child can call for the cleaning gnomes or fairies to come and help with the clean up. I like to sing a little song while we clean with the gnomes. “Here come the cleaning gnomes, cleaning up their messy home, putting all the toys away, so they may play another day.”
Going from Point A to Point B
28. Suggest that your child (and you) march like ants, slither like snakes, run like cheetas, hop like bunnies/frogs, fly like birds, leap like lizards, creep like turtles, pounce like cats, or stomp like elephants.
29. “Nestle into your kangaroo pouch” (if you are trying to wrangle your toddler into your babywearing apparatus).
30. “Let’s be race car drivers and drive our cars as fast as we can to the bedroom.”
31. “Let’s chug-a-lug like choo choo trains to the kitchen.”
Getting in the Car
32. “My little birdie may fly into her nest.”
33. “Buzz like a bee and snuggle in to your hive.”
34. “It’s go for launch! The rocket ship is leaving. Where is my fearless astronaut? Hurry, buckle in so you can zoom to the moon.”
Getting in the Stroller
35. “The train is leaving, all aboard.” (Be sure to choo choo quite a bit.)
36. “Your horse drawn carriage awaits. Climb on in and the pony will pull you home.”
37. “All aboard the mighty ship! Ahoy Captain, point me in the direction of home and we will sail away!”
38. “Reach into the waterfall to see what is on the other side.”
39. “Rub the magic dream stone (bar of soap) so that you may have special dreams tonight.”
40. “I see that your busy hands are having fun. Let’s take them to the sink where they may splash in the water like a fish.”
Yours in talking in pictures,
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- On being a more playful parent — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine shares how the Playful Parenting book impacted her.
- Parenting a toddler through play — Alicia at I Found My Feet lists some examples of how she uses play to parent through everyday tasks and challenges.
- Splashing in Puddles — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter shares how she learned to get dirty and have fun with her little boy.
- Say Please — Cassie at There’s a Pickle in My Life explains how they taught their son manners by “play,” showing that actions speak louder than words.
- No Nanny Needed — Laura at Our Messy Messy Life wishes parenting through play was her only responsibility during the day.
- I’ll Run Away With Gypsies — Nikalee at Spotted Pandemonium maneuvers physical and emotional obstacles while spinning playful tales, jumping through hoops, and inspiring the kids to clean the living room.
- A Promise To My Daughter — Lindsey at An Unschooling Adventure writes a poem for her daughter promising to use play instead of anger when facing difficult situations.
- Parenting Through Play — Not Always Easy But Always Rewarding — Amy at Peace4Parents discusses how play hasn’t always come easily to her, the power of appreciative observation, and how her family learns together through play.
- Imagination Plays a Role in Our Parenting — Tree at Mom Grooves shares how parents can use play to set the foundation for communication and understanding.
- A Box of Crayons — Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction talks about how a simple box of crayons has become a wonderful parenting and teaching tool.
- The Essential Art of Play — Ana at Pandamoly shares some of her favorite lessons available for young ones through play.
- The Art of Distraction — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro shares a list of distracting alternatives to harsh punishments in tough parenting situations.
- Grace and Courtesy Games at Home or School — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now has ideas for grace and courtesy games that help you encourage courteous behavior without reprimanding your child.
- I am woman, hear me roar! — Mrs Green from Little Green Blog shares how one simple sound can diffuse an argument in an instant.
- Getting Cooperation Through Play — Amyables at Toddler In Tow talks about respecting the worldview of a preschooler by using play to encourage connection and cooperation.
- Playful Parenting = Extra Energy?? — Momma Jorje didn’t think she had the energy for playful parenting. See what she was surprised to learn…
- Dance Party Parenting — Laura from A Pug in the Kitchen learned how to be the parent her children need through play.
- Wrestling Saved My Life — Wrestling is as vital to her son’s well-being as babywearing once was, finds Hannah at Wild Parenting.
- Parenting through play — By playing with her children, Tara from MUMmedia is given amazing opportunites to teach, train and equip her children for life.
- Parenting Through Play Starts in Infancy — In a guest post at Natural Parents Network, Issa from LoveLiveGrow shares that though she only has a 3-month-old, playful parenting has already started.
- Play Before Sleep — Adrienne at Mommying My Way writes about how playing and singing with her son before he falls asleep helps calm her frustrations that tend to arise at night.
- Playful Parenting — Or 5 Lessons My Son Has Taught Me About Parenting Through Play — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama has learned to be a better parent by following her toddler’s lead in play.
- Hurry up! Hurry up! I mean it! Quack, quack, quack! — Kellie at Our Mindful Life leads a trail of ducklings
- On the Road: Learning to Play — Seonaid at The Practical Dilettante discovers her inner adult through a summer of playing with her children.
- Preventing Tantrums Through Play — Gaby at Tmuffin explains how she keeps her household happy by not taking things too seriously.
- Carnival of Natural Parenting: Parenting Through Play — Lily, aka Witch Mom, redirects unwanted behavior in a toddler using games and play.
- Exaggerating for effect — Lauren at Hobo Mama has learned how to ham it up.
- Handling Big Emotions with Role Playing — Zoie at TouchstoneZ plays at tempering her parental frustrations while helping her children handle some big emotions
- How To Herd Toddlers by Talking Pictorially — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama demonstrates how talking in pictures is a playful way to engage your young child in transitioning from one activity to the next.
- Getting a Toddler to Go Where You Want…Playfully — Sylvia at MaMammalia describes how a game of hide-and-seek can be used to steer a wandering toddler in the direction of her choosing.
- Playful Parenting: Chores That Do Themselves — Remember chores when you were a kid? If chores were this fun for Chante at My Natural Motherhood Journey, she wouldn’t have needed any reminders!
- Clown School Express: Playing away Fears — MudpieMama describes how she helped her boys confront their fears about starting kindergarten by playing with trains.
- Practicing Playful Parenting — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle realizes that playfulness is the best way through the day and seeks more ways to practice it.
- Today, Tomorrow and Every Day — Starr at Taking Time addresses her children in a letter sharing with them how improtant it is that they spend their childhood playing.
- Learning Through Immersion — Luschka at Diary of a First Child shares how she helps her daughter develop naturally without focusing on teaching, but rather by immersing her in their family’s way of life and making her an active part of her environment.
- Play Here Now — Jessica at Instead of Institutions learns and relearns and tries to remember the value of play.
- Play: A Wonderful Parenting Tool — Mamapoekie from Authentic Parenting offers a list of examples on how to use play in real-life parenting situations.
- Playful Parenting — a Book Review — Erica at ChildOrganics shares simple yet sage advice from Dr. Cohen on how play can change your child’s life.
- Mock Threats: Turning Real Frustration into Playful Parenting — Threatening is not an effective discipline strategy, but Dionna at Code Name: Mama explains how parents can turn their frustration into playful moments by making “mock threats.”
- I’m Sick of Yelling — I Want to Play — Alicia at McCrenshaw’s Newest Thoughts realizes she needs to change the way she’s parenting and is forming a new plan.
- Sing-along, Brush-along Songs — Shana at Tales of Minor Interest shares a few songs to make brushing her three-year-old’s teeth more fun.
- Monster Voice — Ever have those frustrating moments with your kid(s) when you just want to scream? Amy at Anktangle shares a silly strategy for getting through those difficult times.