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Welcome back to The Unconditional Love Challenge. For those of you just joining me here is a little background on what this challenge is all about: Inspired by Dr. Laura at Aha Parenting, I have created The Unconditional Love Challenge. This is a 10 part challenge based on Dr. Laura’s series on Ten Steps to Unconditional Love. I will be posting challenges and results on the 1st and 3rd Monday of each month giving you two weeks to tackle each step. You can work as quickly or as slowly as needed.
Got it? Good!
Two weeks ago I issued a challenged designed to help you realize that unconditional love it like a muscle. It needs a daily workout! The premise of this challenge was to let go of feelings that are basically bogging you down. Anger, hostility, resentment, and the like all challenge our ability to show unconditional love to others as well as ourselves. And then there is judgment. I actually wrote an entire post on this topic as part of the next Carnival of Natural Parenting so you will just have to wait with baited breath for that. But in a nutshell, I encouraged you all to try to hone in on when you react and how you react to various situations/people/etc…
I enjoyed this challenged. I’m not an “angry” person but I can get worked up about the little stuff. Letting go of those feelings is tough, especially because they are linked to my lack of patience. But at the end of the day, anger is truly the least productive response one can have towards themselves or others. Yes, it can have a place, but as the default emotion it really is only damaging.
How did all of you do? I am interested in learning more about how you went about this particular challenge. Were you able to “exercise” unconditional love?
As always, you can read Dr. Laura’s original post here.
From Dr. Laura: To love our children unconditionally, we need to keep our own pitchers full, so we can keep pouring as needed. Quite simply, we can only give what we have inside. And even if parenting is the most meaningful part of your life, it still requires a whole lot of giving. And yet, most of us live in constant stress, which means we’re running on empty. Small wonder we lose patience with our child.
Amen. A million amens.
Mamas do a pretty awful job at taking care of our own selves. We rarely make our needs a priority. Honestly, I am the LAST person I think about and at the end of the day I typically have not done a single thing for me. Blogging is about all I have and while I love it, enjoy it, and have made so many beautiful connections because of it, it would be nice to get a moment or two to take a bath by myself, read a book, or take a walk without Tiny grumbling and trying to leap out of the stroller. Shoot – at this point I would settle for taking a crap without Tiny on my friggin’ lap! (Serious. I am being serious).
Dr. Laura states in no uncertain terms that we need to actually move self care UP on our priority list. So guess what? Your challenge, OUR challenge this week is to find ONE WAY to make ourselves a priority at least three times per week. ONE WAY, THREE TIMES PER WEEK!
Need some ideas? How about taking a long, uninterrupted bath? What about a walk? Maybe some gardening? Painting? Meditating? Getting a massage? A pedicure? Going to a cheapy hair salon and just having someone else wash and dry your hair? Reading? Shoot – even mindless internet surfing? Emailing long lost friends? Calling someone and having an uninterrupted conversation. Taking a nap. Watching a movie? Going to bed at a reasonable hour?
Ok – off you go! I’m excited to try this personally. My “free time” always ends up clogged up with a to-do list a mile long so I can’t wait to see if I can truly force myself to make ME a priority.
Good luck to you!